Archive | December, 2015

the year was 2015 and SGL’s most popular posts

31 Dec

I hope you’ve got some fun plans for the next few days to ring in 2016…. 2016! Don’t freak out. When it’s 2020 you can freak out.

I wanted to, real quick, give you a rundown of 2015 for me and my little family.

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~Lady in our home of only a few months! Such a sad pillow she had!

~A surprise weekend visit from some dear friends from Bend! Love these sisters.

~Another visit from some dear friends from Bend! We braved the crowds and made it up to some falls!

~ My brother took me on a canoe ride up the Deschutes River (really one of my favorite things to do). Sunshine, the sound of water lapping against the canoe and not having to paddle at all? A great way to spend a morning

~ Getting my VW Bug ready for the trip up to Portland! Poor thing had a little mouse nest in the engine compartment.

~ A friend and her daughter came for a week! We had a blast. Love our yearly trips.

~Next two pictures down are from my trip to Cali to visit family. It was a great trip full of family, food and gorgeous scenery.

~Some friends (fabulous friends that have adopted us into their family!!) came for a visit and we went to the beach for the day. somehow I don’t have the picture we took with them.

~Our family grew! Abby Pond joined our home and increased the craziness 10 fold. Lady has grown to like her instead of just tolerate her, i mean look at that expression on Lady’s face… that doesn’t speak of love does it? Abby’s pretty sure Lady’s job in life is to be her pillow/toy.

~I went to my first concert in probably ten years! Weird Al in Bend. It was so much fun and much more than just someone standing up on a stage singing. He’s a true entertainer.

~Thanksgiving in Bend, with two of my nieces. I really thought about sneaking them home in my car… their parents wouldn’t notice, right??

~For Hanukkah we had a guest. Who really likes playing dreidel…

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Here are SGL’s most popular posts this year:

Good-bye Lover  – this was a book I received free to read and review and I enjoyed it immensely. ‘Lover’ is the name of the family heirloom – a violin.

Striving for a Virtuous Life – Modesty, Authenticity , Hope  – I so enjoyed this series with each post focusing on a different virtue I wanted to grow in my life.

Dealing with the Pain of a Disappointing Doctor  – Doctors, doctors, doctors… when they cause you more pain instead of easing it

Chronic Pain and its side effects – an honest look at what chronic pain does to you (or me, as the case more accurately is) but what is less-talked about

Starting out the New Year with a whimper, some tears and a bang – the beginning of this year’s posting started out with some serious readership!

Thank you for joining me here on SGL this past year and I look forward to spending 2016 with you as well. I am still contemplating my next series, figuring out just how I want to focus more on my writing on here and wishing I knew how to get a page that I could frequently update with a list, separated into genres, of all the books I’ve reviewed. Wouldn’t that be nice?

Happy New Year,

Laura

Letting go and Moving on

28 Dec

I’ve shared here on SGL before that dealing with these migraines for over 10 years now has changed me – for better or worse, it has. It’s bound to, really.

What’s been plaguing me for quite a while is the sadness that comes with that fact – who I used to be was someone I liked well, overall. She was a bit too timid to try new things and lacking in self-confidence but I liked her.

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The next thing that would naturally follow that thinking was ‘who would i be if i never had these migraines?’ Of course I’d like to believe that I would be some business owner ( go bakery!) by now, or perhaps high up in whatever other career I had chosen.

This is all fruitless wondering of course, because no one really knows where they would be had they taken a different path, one chosen or chosen for them.  So while I was ‘wool-gathering’ in this manner the other day, I had a thought that changed these questions for me.

Who was I?

Who am I now?

Who am I going to be because of who I am now?

See the difference? I tend to put so much weight on how these long years of blasted pain have affected me (in the negative) that anything I have learned gets shoved aside which I’m thinking is a good way to keep myself from doing any more growing. It’s hard to describe just what chronic pain does to you, I tried HERE,  and I am frequently wishing my OH could have known me before all these physical limitations that often leave me frustrated. But, I am so blessed despite these issues, and I have breaks where I am able to do some cleaning, working here on my blog, or writing on one of my multiple stories.

(Abby insists on attention no matter how I’m feeling)

Really the last two questions are the ones I want to think over and work toward the woman I want to be.

No matter what we wish – we know we can’t change the past but we can change the future by how we live today. While I may feel like giving up and just spending each and every day curled up on the couch, that’s not exactly how I want to spend the rest of my life, or even the precedent I want, when I hit some overwhelming obstacle. 

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I am reading one of my favorite novels and last night I read this and knew I had to share it.

“If there’s anything I’ve learned in the past year, it’s that no matter how much you wish, you can never change the past. The only thing you can do is change the present.”

So. I’m working on letting go of the past and what I wished for it. As for the present, my OH frequently tells me ‘ I don’t know what you’re expecting of yourself.” That might sound strange but it brings me back from whatever road I’m wandering down that leads to pity or frustration. If I have these physical restrictions, I shouldn’t be telling myself I can clean the house, walk the dogs, make dinner and who knows what else – all in one day. To you maybe that’s easy, a cinch, no problem and that’s awesome. I haven’t been able to do that much in a day in a long while, unless I push myself… and pay for it later….

Let me get back on track a little bit.

The past is, well, the past. And whether we like what it holds or not, we have got to let it go. Otherwise we can’t be fully here, in this moment. And we can’t point ourselves toward the future that we want either.

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So, friends, keep your chins up and a smile on your face, but don’t be afraid to burrow under the covers for a good cry every once in a while. Just remember to come back out.

~Laura

(I resisted using an image of Elsa singing Let it Go….just so you know…)

Last Minute Gift Ideas – Books

21 Dec

I don’t know about you but I’ve got almost all of my Christmas shopping done! There are a few stragglers but I’m feeling rather proud of myself for having started planning so early and getting things done!  

I thought it would be kind of fun to throw together a list of some of my favorite books in case you are needing some help in ideas (because what better gift can one get/give than BOOKS?)

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Novels for preteens/teens:

Mrs. Mike by Benedict and Nancy Freedman

Beauty by Robyn Mckinley

The Sherwood Ring by Elizabeth Marie Pope

Wind in the Willows by Kenneth Grahame

Anne of Green Gables (and series) by L.M. Montgomery

The Inheritance by Lousia May Alcott

Mara: Daughter of the Nile by Eloise Jarvis McGraw

 

Novels for an older readership:

The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien

Elantris by Brandon Sanderson

The Invisible Man by H.G. Wells

The O’Malley Series by Dee Henderson

Leota’s Garden by Francine Rivers

 

Other:

God-Fearers by Toby Janicki

Torah Rediscovered by Ariel Berkowitz

The Problem of Pain by C.S. Lewis

Louisa May Alcott: Her Life, Letters and Journals by Ednah Cheeney

For Women Only and For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn

Heal Your Headache by David Buccholz

 

 

~While I separated the novels into two groups, the ones in the teen area can certainly be enjoyed by adults! ~

Merry Christmas friends! Come back for a review of a GREAT series!

~Laura

Dealing with the ME’s

17 Dec

Has anyone else been hit with the mememememe’s lately? No, not the ‘meme’s, or whatever that is. the ME’s.The ‘I want’ , ‘I need’ or my favorite, ‘I deserve’ thoughts that start running through your head so that your insides get all tangled up because your wants/needs/deserves aren’t being met in that moment.

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I got hit with them the other evening and finally realized it. Thank goodness most of the time that stuff doesn’t come out of my mouth.

Once I realize that’s where my focus is, I have a few things to try and shake myself out of it.

~PRAY for my focus to move to what it should be on.

~LIST all my OH does for me on a daily basis – instead of what I wish he would be doing for me (because all he’d done that day was go to work and school which is at least a 14 hr day, geesh Laura)

~BLESS him, offering a back rub,making him tea/coffee, leaving him alone to play a video game or whatever he’s doing to unwind, he deserves to have that time!

~DO something else  – read, watch a tv show, play a video game, play with the dogs, etc

And, on the rare occasion those things don’t work,

~SLEEP – of course by this time, he knows something’s wrong. So, he asks. no getting anything by this guy. I tell him I’m just off, we snuggle for about 1.5 minutes, I roll back to my side of the bed and within .5 minutes he’s asleep. who falls asleep that fast? jealousy…….  anyway, that bit was random. Really sleep is what will do it. I wake up and forget I was ridiculously frustrated with him, or myself or whatever.

I know as spouses we are told to put our other half’s needs before our own, but as so many things, it is harder to do. Now I’m not saying that you don’t deserve to be pampered  – heaven knows there are some moments when I tell him I just need a hug or a snuggle and then I’m fine. But, the above list is for when I know I’m expecting more than I should, in the moments when it is not realistic.

~Laura

What do you do to get over the ME’s?

What to do when you’re stuck

8 Dec

Stuck on idea for where to take your novel next, i mean. that kind of stuck.

Stuck as in, you got up early this morning to start writing because you haven’t touched it since thanksgiving vacation and really want to get going on it again.

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Stuck as in, you know where you want it to go but not how you’re going to get it there.

Stuck as in, STUCK.

Here’s what you do:

Make toast, tea and lemon water.

Feed begging dogs.

Let dogs outside in the rain.

start reading what you wrote during NANOWRIMO.

check stats of blog.

check facebook.

let dogs inside.

Head over to pinterest.

check email.

read more of what you wrote during NANOWRIMO.

take picture of cute puppy.

Play with puppy.

work on christmas gift list.

contemplate going back to bed.

realize it’s been over an hour and you haven’t even read all of what you wrote last month, much less WRITE.

Here’s my solution to this :

Cut internet.

blockade dogs from office.

DONE.

I’m now going to actually write on my novel. if you need me, leave a message. 

Book Review – Nov. 2015

1 Dec

Hello friends! I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving and that the transition back to work hasn’t been too painful. That was always sooo hard for me, going back to work the Monday after a holiday (working in a daycare/preschool, we always had weekends off). I always made sure to wear cute but comfy clothes, have a hot drink in my hand and had a lazy day planned – dance parties or play doh were hits. There are certainly days where I miss working with kids but not today! I got to walk my two dogs, worked in the backyard and watched some Christmas cartoons. All that with the thought that I really needed to finish this post, ha!

Thank goodness I was on top of it last week, while on vacation ironically, and wrote the reviews already! So here you go, fellow book-addicts, some great reads for you!

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Highland Crossing – Pamela Griffin – Join four women as they cross from Scotland to North Carolina, where a brooch unites them in their search for love and a new life.

  • Seona hides on board the ship bound for N.C. with one goal – to stay away from the cargo master. To get caught by him will mean getting sent back to Scotland – which will lead to her death. The brooch is a family heirloom, will she be able to find the one it’s meant for?
  • Fiona travels to retrieve the brooch, but ends up on the whipping block. Can she trust the man who rescues her?
  • Seren sells the brooch in order to achieve her dream – to open a confectionery. But will it be worth it? Or will she have sold the heirloom for nothing?
  • Brynna finally has the brooch in her possession, but then it’s stolen. Will she be able to reclaim it, or will she lose something far more valuable?

-These were short, fun reads that, as with most short stories, I would have loved if they were longer! I enjoyed the fact that it was one family through the generations – with the brooch often being the item that changed their goals/focus/whatever you want to call it.

Spindle’s End – Robin Mckinley – On her name-day, Princess Briar-Rose is cursed by Pernicia to one day prick her finger on the spindle of a spinning wheel and fall into a never-ending sleep. But Katriona, a young fairy, kidnaps her in order to save her from her fate. She takes the princess to her small village and there, her aunt and her raise Briar-Rose where no one knows her true identity. But Pernicia won’t easily give up the chance to exact revenge for a defeat over four hundred years old.

-Mckinley once again delivers an enchanting re-telling of a fairy-tale. I picked this up at Powell’s Bookstore when my OH and I went last month and the risk paid off! I have heard that some of her re-tellings aren’t as good as Beauty (if you haven’t read that one, you simply must.) but I enjoyed this one! What I didn’t like about it was the loong detailed intro about the world they live in – and how the magic affects it and how they deal with it. It was a bit too much for me, I had to keep myself from skimming to get to the actual story. But once that was done, I loved every bit of it.

Hidden Places – Lynn Austin – Eliza has wanted a home all her life. After 10 years of having one, she isn’t about to let it go now. Wyatt Orchards is hers and her kids’. But keeping it up is more than she can handle. Help comes in the unexpected form of a hobo, who shares similarities to her late husbands’ lost brother. The pain and heartbreak in the farmhouse is overflowing, will it take a hold of Eliza as well?

– This is a novel that pulls at your heartstrings! I did a partial review last month but by the time I finished it I decided it’ll for sure be on the re-read list! Austin takes you through several of the characters backstories in detail which were like short stories all on their own! I loved that. The way she tied them all together was fantastic. Be prepared to not want to do anything but READ this book!

God-Fearers – Gentiles and the God of Israel – Toby Janicki – How do non-Jews participate in the modern revival of the Messianic Jewish? This book  brings together what is known on late Second-Temple Era Judaism and early Christianity to answer this question, and to introduce  those first non-Jewish believers, called God-Fearers.

-I set a goal of reading five Jewish focused- books this year. Sadly this is only my second! But, it is really good so far and written so that I can understand it! I don’t know about you, but I’ve found a lot of theology books to be hard to understand/follow. I highly recommend this for anyone wanting an intro of how Messianic Judaism and non-Jews can blend and worship together.

Silk –  Heart of India series #1 – Linda Chaikin – In the late 1700’s in India, Coral Kendall is heiress to Kingscote Silk Plantation. Breaking all caste rules, she adopts an orphaned Indian boy. Their love becomes that of mother and son but when he is abducted and then a body is found in the river, Coral’s heart is broken.

But could there be a reason to believe that the boy’s identity was not what she believed? Could he still be alive?  In order to find out the truth, Coral will have to trust one man – a man with more mysteries in his past than she can imagine.

-ACK! (that was an exclamation of excitement just so you know.) I have read these since I was a teenager and love them every. single. time. As I’ve grown I’ve picked up different aspects of the story. This is a trilogy, so don’t expect it to conclude quickly. I actually can’t remember where this novel ends!

(I will be doing a series review once I’ve read all of them but I wanted to share this one now)!

Happy December and Happy Reading!

~Laura

~If you purchase a book from Amazon by following a link here on SGL, I will get a percentage of the sale =) ~