Striving for a Virtuous Life – Modesty

10 Nov

Hello again friends! This is a topic I knew I was going to cover, but waited and waited until I had a better idea of how I wanted to do it. The goal here is to encourage everyone, men and women, in behaving and dressing in a way that pleases our Lord. For modesty isn’t just about how you dress – it is also inside of you. What comes from the heart is what you drape yourself in.


To make this even more exciting is the fact that we are linking up with Hannah of Love, Hannah B for this topic! Make sure you hop over and check out her post, and really just her whole blog, I adore it!

If you would like, feel free to check out the other studies – Virtue , Hope , faithfulness, hospitality, authenticity and wholesome speechexpectationslistening and protection. There is no specific order for this study! A few ‘boring’ things before we get started – I will get all my meanings from unless otherwise stated. For my verses, I will be using my Complete Jewish Bible, unless otherwise stated.


  •  the quality of being modest; freedom from vanity, boastfulness, etc
  •   regard for decency of behavior, speech, dress, etc.
  •   simplicity; moderation.

Word origin and History – 1530s, “freedom from exaggeration, self-control,” from Middle French modestie or directly from Latinmodestia “moderation, sense of honor,correctness of conduct,” frommodestus “moderate, keeping measure,sober, gentle, temperate,” frommodus “measure, manner” (seemode(n.1)). Meaning “quality of having a moderate opinion of oneself” is from 1550s; that of “womanly propriety” is from 1560s.

I really liked the different meanings above that I had to share this!

1 Peter 3:3-4 – Your beauty should not consist in externals such as fancy hairstyles, gold jewelry or what you wear;  rather, let it be the inner character of your heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit. In God’s sight this is of great value.”

1 Timothy 2:9-10 – Likewise, the women, when they pray, should be dressed modestly and sensibly in respectable attire, not with elaborate hairstyles and gold jewelry, or pearls, or expensive clothes.  Rather, they should adorn themselves with what is appropriate for women who claim to be worshipping God, namely, good deeds.”
Now, I know we ALL have heard these verses through the years – sadly, often they are incorrectly taught! These verses are pointing out what, exactly, we as women should be focusing our attention on – good deeds. A gentle and quiet spirit. Being a woman of prayer. Finding clothes that are tasteful, attractive and sensible is important for it affects our self-confidence and how others see us – no i’m not saying that our main concern is how others see us but rather so that our faith, our light, can shine more the brighter. I feel like I’m muddling this bit up, do you understand what i’m saying? Our inward state is the most important. How we adorn ourselves on the outward is, I believe, a reflection of who we are on the inside.

 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 –Or don’t you know that your body is a temple for the Ruach HaKodesh (Holy Spirit) who lives inside you, whom you received from God? The fact is, you don’t belong to yourselves;  for you were bought at a price. So use your bodies to glorify God.”

1 Corinthians 10:31 – “Well, whatever you do, whether it’s eating or drinking or anything else, do it all so as to bring glory to God.”

Romans 12:1 – “ I exhort you, therefore, brothers, in view of God’s mercies, to offer yourselves as a sacrifice, living and set apart for God. This will please him; it is the logical “Temple worship” for you.”

We are living sacrifices with the task of glorifying God, no matter what we are doing.

1 Timothy 4:12 – “Don’t let anyone look down on you because of your youth; on the contrary, set the believers an example in your speech, behavior, love, trust and purity.”

Just because some of us are younger, doesn’t mean that we cannot be examples for others. Our lives, whether we are in our teens to nineties, can be set-apart examples of living for God. Being set apart doesn’t mean completely removing ourselves so that we can no longer be witnesses. We are to be in the world, but not of it, right? This means constant vigilance over what we surround ourselves with – but still be relevant in our times. And no holding your nose so high in the air you can’t look anyone in the eye. That shows a lack of modesty, humility and an influx of the wrong kind of pride. . All in all, remember these words to strive to set examples for proper living – while still maintaining modesty.

A few printables for you!



Proverbs 31:30 – “Charm can lie, beauty can vanish, but a woman who fears ADONAI should be praised.”

Our last post of this series is next month! Don’t miss it!

Have you struggled with being modest? Is it something you’re currently dealing with? Let’s talk!

I hope you have enjoyed this study with me and as I said above, do check out the other studies in this series – Virtue , Hope , faithfulness, hospitality, authenticity and wholesome speechexpectations, listening and protection.

4 Responses to “Striving for a Virtuous Life – Modesty”

  1. Susannah November 10, 2015 at 8:05 am #

    It’s SO important to recognize that modesty goes far beyond simply what clothes a woman wears. We are called to live a modest lifestyle, not just to dress modestly.


    • booksnbakery November 10, 2015 at 1:48 pm #

      so true! i feel like one gets taught while the other doesn’t, while they are equally important. thanks for coming by!



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