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Striving for a Virtuous Life

4 Dec

With this series coming to a close this month, it’s made me look back on all the topics we’ve covered and contemplate how I have grown in each of them. I have not done near as well as I had intended but any growth is GOOD forward movement that I will be proud of. Here is a quick run-down of how I feel I did on each one of them:


(if you want to read the original posts, each title links up to them!)

Authenticity – to a degree, I have tried to be more ME. To not pull up the mask to hide the pain – physical or emotional. This might seem silly, but even going somewhere/letting others come over without me having makeup on (or even attempting something other than re-ponytailing (is that a word?) my crazy hair is a part of being ME more.

Hospitality – I love it when people come over. but i will admit to getting super nervous when it comes to the actual hosting duties. My OH enjoys hosting so I let him take over typically. But i’ve been trying to get over the jitters!

Hope – not so well –I have been very up and down this year. My down times have gone hand in hand with the severity of my physical pain. This year plus has been the most difficult in the way of emotions out of the past decade of chronic pain.

Faithfulness– Uhhhmm, I suppose the answer is the same as above.The bedrock of my faith is still strong and secure, but there have been more moments of questioning details of faith as I’m slowly transitioning to the Messianic Jewish life.

Wholesome Speech – I feel like I’ve grown in this when speaking to others, but have for sure gone backwards when talking to myself.

Listening– Yes and no….. I am trying to listen more to what isn’t said sometimes than I used to. As well as asking more questions to find out where people really are.

Expectations – sitting here thinking about it, I suppose my struggles in hope and faithfulness spread a bit to here as well. My longing to be healed by now has periodically made it difficult to see the blessings He has given to me.

Protection – I needed this reminder this morning! He is my Protector!

Modesty – this has been something I haven’t struggled with too much in years. the struggle tends to be more of ‘this dress/top is so cute but i’m tired of having to layer everything in my closet!’ than anything else.

Thank you for coming along with me on this series, I hope that you have learned and grown from it. I know that I want to do another series next year but I don’t have any idea what it will cover yet! Or even whether it’ll be faith-based. If you have any ideas, do share!



Striving for a Virtuous Life – Modesty

10 Nov

Hello again friends! This is a topic I knew I was going to cover, but waited and waited until I had a better idea of how I wanted to do it. The goal here is to encourage everyone, men and women, in behaving and dressing in a way that pleases our Lord. For modesty isn’t just about how you dress – it is also inside of you. What comes from the heart is what you drape yourself in.


To make this even more exciting is the fact that we are linking up with Hannah of Love, Hannah B for this topic! Make sure you hop over and check out her post, and really just her whole blog, I adore it!

If you would like, feel free to check out the other studies – Virtue , Hope , faithfulness, hospitality, authenticity and wholesome speechexpectationslistening and protection. There is no specific order for this study! A few ‘boring’ things before we get started – I will get all my meanings from dictionary.reference.com unless otherwise stated. For my verses, I will be using my Complete Jewish Bible, unless otherwise stated.


  •  the quality of being modest; freedom from vanity, boastfulness, etc
  •   regard for decency of behavior, speech, dress, etc.
  •   simplicity; moderation.

Word origin and History – 1530s, “freedom from exaggeration, self-control,” from Middle French modestie or directly from Latinmodestia “moderation, sense of honor,correctness of conduct,” frommodestus “moderate, keeping measure,sober, gentle, temperate,” frommodus “measure, manner” (seemode(n.1)). Meaning “quality of having a moderate opinion of oneself” is from 1550s; that of “womanly propriety” is from 1560s.

I really liked the different meanings above that I had to share this!

1 Peter 3:3-4 – Your beauty should not consist in externals such as fancy hairstyles, gold jewelry or what you wear;  rather, let it be the inner character of your heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit. In God’s sight this is of great value.”

1 Timothy 2:9-10 – Likewise, the women, when they pray, should be dressed modestly and sensibly in respectable attire, not with elaborate hairstyles and gold jewelry, or pearls, or expensive clothes.  Rather, they should adorn themselves with what is appropriate for women who claim to be worshipping God, namely, good deeds.”
Now, I know we ALL have heard these verses through the years – sadly, often they are incorrectly taught! These verses are pointing out what, exactly, we as women should be focusing our attention on – good deeds. A gentle and quiet spirit. Being a woman of prayer. Finding clothes that are tasteful, attractive and sensible is important for it affects our self-confidence and how others see us – no i’m not saying that our main concern is how others see us but rather so that our faith, our light, can shine more the brighter. I feel like I’m muddling this bit up, do you understand what i’m saying? Our inward state is the most important. How we adorn ourselves on the outward is, I believe, a reflection of who we are on the inside.

 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 –Or don’t you know that your body is a temple for the Ruach HaKodesh (Holy Spirit) who lives inside you, whom you received from God? The fact is, you don’t belong to yourselves;  for you were bought at a price. So use your bodies to glorify God.”

1 Corinthians 10:31 – “Well, whatever you do, whether it’s eating or drinking or anything else, do it all so as to bring glory to God.”

Romans 12:1 – “ I exhort you, therefore, brothers, in view of God’s mercies, to offer yourselves as a sacrifice, living and set apart for God. This will please him; it is the logical “Temple worship” for you.”

We are living sacrifices with the task of glorifying God, no matter what we are doing.

1 Timothy 4:12 – “Don’t let anyone look down on you because of your youth; on the contrary, set the believers an example in your speech, behavior, love, trust and purity.”

Just because some of us are younger, doesn’t mean that we cannot be examples for others. Our lives, whether we are in our teens to nineties, can be set-apart examples of living for God. Being set apart doesn’t mean completely removing ourselves so that we can no longer be witnesses. We are to be in the world, but not of it, right? This means constant vigilance over what we surround ourselves with – but still be relevant in our times. And no holding your nose so high in the air you can’t look anyone in the eye. That shows a lack of modesty, humility and an influx of the wrong kind of pride. . All in all, remember these words to strive to set examples for proper living – while still maintaining modesty.

A few printables for you!



Proverbs 31:30 – “Charm can lie, beauty can vanish, but a woman who fears ADONAI should be praised.”

Our last post of this series is next month! Don’t miss it!

Have you struggled with being modest? Is it something you’re currently dealing with? Let’s talk!

I hope you have enjoyed this study with me and as I said above, do check out the other studies in this series – Virtue , Hope , faithfulness, hospitality, authenticity and wholesome speechexpectations, listening and protection.

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