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Striving for a Virtuous Life

4 Dec

With this series coming to a close this month, it’s made me look back on all the topics we’ve covered and contemplate how I have grown in each of them. I have not done near as well as I had intended but any growth is GOOD forward movement that I will be proud of. Here is a quick run-down of how I feel I did on each one of them:

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(if you want to read the original posts, each title links up to them!)

Authenticity – to a degree, I have tried to be more ME. To not pull up the mask to hide the pain – physical or emotional. This might seem silly, but even going somewhere/letting others come over without me having makeup on (or even attempting something other than re-ponytailing (is that a word?) my crazy hair is a part of being ME more.

Hospitality – I love it when people come over. but i will admit to getting super nervous when it comes to the actual hosting duties. My OH enjoys hosting so I let him take over typically. But i’ve been trying to get over the jitters!

Hope – not so well –I have been very up and down this year. My down times have gone hand in hand with the severity of my physical pain. This year plus has been the most difficult in the way of emotions out of the past decade of chronic pain.

Faithfulness– Uhhhmm, I suppose the answer is the same as above.The bedrock of my faith is still strong and secure, but there have been more moments of questioning details of faith as I’m slowly transitioning to the Messianic Jewish life.

Wholesome Speech – I feel like I’ve grown in this when speaking to others, but have for sure gone backwards when talking to myself.

Listening– Yes and no….. I am trying to listen more to what isn’t said sometimes than I used to. As well as asking more questions to find out where people really are.

Expectations – sitting here thinking about it, I suppose my struggles in hope and faithfulness spread a bit to here as well. My longing to be healed by now has periodically made it difficult to see the blessings He has given to me.

Protection – I needed this reminder this morning! He is my Protector!

Modesty – this has been something I haven’t struggled with too much in years. the struggle tends to be more of ‘this dress/top is so cute but i’m tired of having to layer everything in my closet!’ than anything else.

Thank you for coming along with me on this series, I hope that you have learned and grown from it. I know that I want to do another series next year but I don’t have any idea what it will cover yet! Or even whether it’ll be faith-based. If you have any ideas, do share!

Blessings,

Laura

Striving for a Virtuous Life – Expectations

10 Aug

I’m starting to think that I should set the date for this series later in the month, since I keep being late about it….

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If you would like, feel free to check out the other studies – Virtue , Hope , faithfulness, hospitality, authenticity and wholesome speech. There is no specific order for this study! A few ‘boring’ things before we get started – I will get all my meanings from dictionary.reference.com unless otherwise stated. For my verses, I will be using my Complete Jewish Bible, unless otherwise stated.

Expectations:

  • the act or the state of expecting
  • the act or state of looking forward or anticipating.
  • an expectant mental attitude
  • something expected; a thing looked forward to.
  • Often, expectations. a prospect of future good or profit
  • the degree of probability that something will occur

By the title you might be wondering how expectations fit into a virtue of a Godly man or woman. Expectations touch every area of our lives – marriage, singleness, college, health, work, kids etc. Whether we want it, have it or lost it – our expectations can be met and broken daily. For me, in my early 20’s I was heart sore about being single still. As one after another of my friends got married, I cried on the staircase of my home and cried out to God. As I went through Culinary School, the pressure and atmosphere sucked my personality right out of me – I cried and prayed. As my migraines increased through Culinary, I cried and I slept and whispered my pain out to God. My plans for my life seemed to be getting smashed, my expectations were obviously not what God had intended. I made it through each one of these struggles – finding peace about being single, graduating Culinary and well, I’m still dealing with my migraines. My expectations had to change and grow with where God was leading me.

In this world, we are taught to have 2 – 5 -10 year plans. Where you’ll go to college, grad school and when you’ll graduate each. When you’ll buy a house and get married. When you’ll have kids (or not). Etc. Etc. While I like having plans laid out, the scary part of this is that they are not necessarily God’s plans for your life. They are yours. And mine. At 18, when I was asked where I saw myself in 10 years, I would never have said single, living with my parents, in chronic pain and nannying (even though the kid was one of the coolest). I would have said I’d be married, with a couple of kids, in a career I loved and a homeowner. 2 years past the question age, I’m happily married, in chronic pain and trying to get into a career I’ve always wanted to be in. Obviously not where I thought but is that a bad thing? No. Because I’ve waited and trusted in God. I’ve maybe been too scared to act on dreams over the years and lost out on that but I’m learning and trying to take that jump even through the fear.

I feel like I’m rambling a bit, and maybe it’s the pain pulsing in my temples and neck but instead of having expectations for my life – I want to have God’s perspective – His expectations for my life.

I don’t want to get wrapped up in ‘by the time i’m 30 i’ll have 2 kids’ because obviously that’s passed and I can’t do anything to change it. Or any of the other dreams that were on a timeline. Instead I want to focus on the fact that He has good plans for me. A future and a hope.

Jer. 29:11 “For I know what plans I have in mind for you,’ says ADONAI, ‘plans for well-being, not for bad things; so that you can have hope and a future.”

Psalms 62:5″My soul, wait in silence for God alone, because my hope comes from him.”

Phil 1:20″It all accords with my earnest expectation and hope that I will have nothing to be ashamed of; but rather, now, as always, the Messiah will be honored by my body, whether it is alive or dead.”

By keeping our hope in Him we are more easily able to keep our expectations where they should be – focused on our Saviour and Redeemer and what He has called us to do. Love Him. Wait on Him. Follow Him.

Phil 3:20-21 “But we are citizens of heaven, and it is from there that we expect a Deliverer, the Lord Yeshua the Messiah.  He will change the bodies we have in this humble state and make them like his glorious body, using the power which enables him to bring everything under his control.”

Sad to say but it is not a frequent thought that I am a citizen of heaven – but can you imagine if we were able to have this perspective? What a change that would do for our thinking! If my heart readily recognizes that my home is with Yeshua in heaven and that this body is only temporary, wouldn’t what I expect out of this life change?
Further reading:
Phil 4:6
Matt 11:28
Micah 6:8
2 Cor 9:8
Phil 4 :19
1 thes 4:1-18
A printable for you:
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Blessings,
Laura

I hope you have enjoyed this study with me and as I said above, do check out the other studies in this series – Virtue , Hope , faithfulness, hospitality, authenticity and wholesome speech.

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